Okay, Unity Church lesson time:

When we say, "Nope, I won't go with you and accept your generosity," the Universe hears, "I don't need that nice vacation," and figures that we're telling the truth, so ... nice vacations don't become a thing for us.

All this to say that I have learned over time to say, "OMG! Thanks!" and have a wonderful time with people who wanted to have me along.

Instead of Just Say No, Just Say Yes!