My son and daughter-in-law aren't married. At least I don't think they are. I'm not sure they'd announce it if they actually did the deed. It doesn't matter to me or to them. I refuse to call her Scott's girlfriend because she is so much more and has been a part of my life for almost twelve years. She's my daughter-in-law.
I love that you aren't living someone else's expectations.
And that you have a ring that twinkles, gleams and sends rainbows into your room!