I learned through losing the Cowboy that people say the dumbest things. It helped to remember their intentions were to offer comfort even though their methods were less than stellar. Less than three weeks after Jim died one of the guys at the car dealership made a comment about just having to move on. I went home, my head banging with an internal rebuke that forChrist’s sake, he had just died and I didn’t even know what day it was much less having any idea of how to move on. That was the one incident that stuck with me and like you I barely remember the first year.